Dear Straight Talk: My boyfriend is 22 and I'm almost 20. We're in college and unsure about our long-term future so we just call ourselves friends. However, our relationship has been monogamous and steady for almost a year and we trust each other completely. We normally have sex with a condom. He recently has been wanting to have sex without one. I'm on the pill (which I take every day at the same time), which is why he sees it being okay. Is this a good idea? — "Sue"
Editor's Note: Something fishy about the pill: For women, the smell of a man is the main attractor in intimacy. And the men who smell best to a particular woman make the healthiest babies. Sweaty-T-shirt-sniffing experiments show that women naturally sniff out men who are good genetic matches. But on birth control pills, they actually sniff out the "wrong" men. What happens is that birth control pills simulate pregnancy which attracts women to the smell of men with similar genetic properties (more like family). Once she's off the pill, she goes back to her natural attraction to men with genetic properties different than hers.
In other words, being on the pill is not a good way to meet the guy you will be attracted to for the long haul. Marriage counselors say that the top complaint by women no longer sexually interested in their husbands is that they can no longer stand his smell. How many young women are on the pill when they meet the guy they end up marrying or having children with? Millions.
Another good reason to use an IUD instead of the pill. The IUD is the most effective birth control available, it does not involve constant flooding of your system with synthetic hormones, you do not have to remember to take it, it is inexpensive, and best of all, you are more likely to end up with Mr. Right. Mr. Right not only keeps smelling attractive to you throughout life, but he and you will make healthier babies.
The book, "Scent of Desire," by Rachel Herz, PhD, is full of this and other astounding information about our sense of smell. For another reference to the study I refer to click here. —Lauren
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